Hun skrev et brev til en særlig forhadt kropsdel
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Hun skrev et stærkt brev til en bestemt kropsdel – hvilken en ville du skrive til?

Fitnesstræneren Victoria Dariano har brugt det meste af sit liv på at skamme sig over en særlig del af sin krop. Men så skrev hun et brev, der en gang for alle sluttede det dårlige forhold. Læs det stærke brev her.

Det kan måske virke en anelse skørt. Eller besat og lidt ude af proportioner. At skamme sig så meget over en bestemt del af sin krop, at man bruger hele sit liv på at hade netop dette sted. Men det var, hvad den canadiske bodybuilder og fitnesstræner Victoria Dariano gjorde. Og den triste sandhed er, at det er, hvad rigtig mange kvinder gør hver eneste dag, hvad enten det handler om deres cellulitis, strækmærker, ar eller størrelse. Derfor er hendes budskab så vigtigt – for alle kan slippe komplekserne!

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Victoria Dariano har det, man kalder ”smilehuller på ballerne”, og siden hun var teenager, har hun prøvet at gøre alt for at skjule netop disse. Indtil hun indså, at selvfølgelig skal kroppens små - eller større - uregelmæssigheder, som alle mennesker har (JO, de har!) ikke afgøre eller have indflydelse på, om man kan leve et fuldt og lykkeligt liv, hvor man har præcist det tøj på, som man har lyst til.

A similar post to last week but I am overcoming an insecurity of mine. . Dear Butt Dimple, I remember the first day you appeared. I was 15 years old. Since then you have had a hugely negative impact on my life. Since then you have made me feel less about myself. You not only made me feel fat, but also unworthy. You have always had an impact on what I chose to wear. I would avoid certain bikinis, and even some of my favorite leggings. I would never feel confident in a bikini because I thought everyone was staring at you. I would never wear my favorite leggings because again I always thought people were starting at you. Long shirts were my go-to as it was a way I could cover you up and have a moment of peace within my mind as no one would be judging you. I remember endless hours of looking at you in the mirror, squeezing you and wondering why I had you. I remember crying of embarrassment as other girls I was friends with didn’t have you. I would exercise extra hard in hopes you would go away. I would eat better also in hopes you would go away. I even considered cellulite treatments so you would finally just go away. You never did, you still haven’t. You took a lot of joy away from me, you caused a lot of stress for me, you made me insecure and took away my confidence. I could never feel in shape as you were always there. I am writing you today to tell you I have finally stopped letting you win. You will no longer make me feel unworthy, not good enough or not in shape because of you. I will no longer be afraid to wear certain bathing suits or leggings because of you. I will no longer hide you. You are what you are and I have finally come to peace with that. I have finally accepted you. ✨when I reflect back on this I realize how stupid it is to have let something this superficial have an impact on my life but it did. I am happy that I have been able to overcome this and I hope if you have a similar struggle you can realize that you too can and will. Don't let things of such insignificance ever take away your happiness. #fuckthedimple #freethebooty #couragetobeyou ❤️

Et opslag delt af victoriadariano (@victoriadariano) den

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Brevet til numsen

Derfor skrev Victoria et brev til sin numses smilehuller. Og selvom det måske ikke er her, at DIN sko trykker, så kan brevet bruges til inspiration. Til den kropsdel du har brugt alt alt for meget tid på at være utilfreds med. For hvem af os vil ikke gerne slippe af med vores kropsskam og bare leve livet – præcist som vi nu ser ud?

Moving my hair and not thinking about the "perfect" angle. Standing straight (with a bad case of lordosis) Posing. I took a little break from posting these types of photos because I was afraid it would upset people, afraid to upset different communities. The truth of the matter is that I don't need to belong to one community or another I can simply be me and just share my journey. Some won't agree, and I am learning that this is okay. I am sharing my story, MINE. It doesn't have to meet someone else's approval or someone else's guidelines. It doesn't need to be placed in one group or another. There doesn't need to be a standard that you feel you must hold yourself up to. It's not about one picture looking "bad" or another looking good" it's about showing beauty in someone being okay with themselves. This is about learning that there doesn't have to be two sides, no reason to label something different as it is just one. It's not about proving one point over another...or making a point at all. It's about being real and not having to choose to show just the "societal accepted parts" but ANY parts you want. Remember. You can be anyone you want to be. You might be pushed in a direction of what you are "supposed to be" but it doesn't mean you have to follow that direction. You can learn to be comfortable as any person in this world...not because someone told you that you can (because this will never happen) but because you gave YOURSELF permission to be. You will not always be someone's cup of coffee, but remember you are the one who will spend the rest of your life drinking it. And I'm not sure about you, but I want to wake up every morning enjoying the cup of coffee I drink. #couragetobeyou

Et opslag delt af victoriadariano (@victoriadariano) den

 

”Kære smilehul på numsen

Jeg kan huske den første dag, du dukkede op. Jeg var 15 år. Og siden da har du haft en kæmpe negativ effekt på mit liv. Du har fået mig til at synes mindre om mig selv. Jeg følte mig aldrig godt tilpas i en bikini, fordi jeg følte, at alle stirrede på dig. Jeg ville aldrig have mine yndlings-leggings på, fordi jeg igen tænkte, at så ville alle kigge på dig. Lange T-shirts var vejen frem, for på denne måde kunne jeg dække dig, og ingen ville dømme dig. Jeg trænede ekstra hårdt i håbet om, at du forsvandt. Jeg spiste også bedre. Jeg overvejede endda cellulitis-behandling, så du da bare kunne forsvinde. Men det gjorde du ikke, og du har aldrig gjort det. Du har taget en stor del af min glæde væk fra mig og forårsagede en bunke stress, og du fik mig til at føle mig usikker og tog min selvtillid væk. Jeg skriver til dig i dag for at fortælle dig, at du ikke mere kan vinde. Du vil ikke længere få mig til at føle mig bange for at bære en badedragt eller leggins. Jeg vil ikke længere skjule dig. Du er, hvad du er, og det har jeg endelig fundet fred med. Jeg har endelig accepteret dig.”

Og Victoria afslutter brevet med denne opfordring til sine læsere:

”Når jeg tænker tilbage, indser jeg, hvor dumt det er at have ladet en så overfladisk ting have betydning for mit liv. Jeg er glad for at have overvundet dette – og jeg håber, at hvis du har en lignede kamp, at du så ved, at du også kan afslutte den og  VIL gøre det. Lad ikke ting af så lille betydning nogensinde fjerne din følelse af lykke.”

#fuckthedimple #freethebooty #couragetobeyou   

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